BE AN OWNER, NOT A BLAMER
Owners take full responsibility for all their actions and even their emotional responses. Blamers shift the responsibility on to others - either people or things. Owners get to know themselves because they are in contact with their own inner workings. Blamers never get to know themselves because they live in a world of denial, and unreal world.
Often the difference between being an owner and a blamer can be recognized in our language patterns. An owner uses the phrase, 'I've decided to... '; a blamer the phrase 'I have to...'. Learn to take responsibility for who you are.
- Inform no. 15, Catholic Adult Education Centre, Sydney
From A Canopy of Stars: Some Reflections for the Journey by Fr Christopher Gleeson SJ [David Lovell Publishing 2003]